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Mary and Joseph–From Fear to Faith

Posted on March 11, 2026April 10, 2026 by Judy Royal Glenn

Animals are not running around with bows on their heads or lights strewed around them helping me capture great Christmas wildlife photographs, so I decided to change gears for a few weeks.

In a previous post, I mentioned how I used to make wooden Christmas ornaments each year for my family. (If you did not get a chance to read about the never-ending miracle story of one of my ornaments, read it here.)

I also decided to use the next few posts to tell the story of Christ’s birth through my wooden ornaments.

An angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream and told him to not be afraid and to take Mary to be his wife. She would conceive from the Holy Spirit and would bear a son, and His name would be Jesus.

Mary was visited by an angel of the Lord and was troubled when he told her she would bear a son even though she was a virgin. “Don’t be afraid, Mary,” the angel told her, “for you have found favor with God!” (Luke 1:30, NLT)

Then, just as the scriptures said, Mary gave birth to a son, and He was given the name Jesus. Can you imagine what was going through Mary and Joseph’s heads as they stood their looking at Baby Jesus?

They each had been through so much before they arrived at this point in the story of Jesus’ birth, but the angel of the Lord told them to not be afraid.

We too need not be afraid. Maybe we feel the Lord has asked us to step out of our comfort zone and do something different. If He asked us to do it, He will give us what we need to accomplish the task!

Be like Mary and Joseph and move from fear to faith!

Martin Luther King, Jr. and the Impact of Inspired Leadership

Posted on March 11, 2026April 10, 2026 by Holly Lebowitz Rossi

To celebrate the life and legacy of the civil rights leader Martin Luther King, Jr., I’m reflecting on the word “leader” in that descriptive moniker. While King was unquestionably a brilliant thinker, an expert speaker and a great many other things, it’s his skilled leadership that enabled his message to translate from a man to a movement to a monument—both literal in the stone edifice that stands in Washington, DC, and figurative in the form of civil rights laws that were born from his steadfast work.

Whether or not you aspire to leadership on a grand stage, each one of us walks a positive path when we lead others by example, inspiration and commitment to our most deeply-held values. Here are three aspects of Dr. King’s leadership that stand out to me:

1) Listen and Learn
Martin Luther King wrote, taught, advocated from a position of having read, listened to, and been inspired by others. In addition to his theological training, which informed so much of his view on justice, King was drawn to the teachings of Mahatma Gandhi, the activist who led the movement for Indian independence from British rule. King called Gandhi “the guiding light of our technique of nonviolent social change.” Because King was open to learning from the experiences and philosophies of those who came before him, his own leadership was only strengthened.

2) Think Long-Term
Dr. King knew that his views provoked ire and even hatred in too many people to contemplate. In the famous speech delivered at a Memphis church the night before his assassination, he directly addressed the possibility he would be killed for his cause. Invoking the image of Moses, he said, “Like anybody, I would like to live a long life. Longevity has its place. But I’m not concerned about that now. I just want to do God’s will. And He’s allowed me to go up to the mountain. And I’ve looked over. And I’ve seen the Promised Land. I may not get there with you. But I want you to know tonight, that we, as a people, will get to the Promised Land!” Inspired leaders are motivated to lay the foundation today for a future they believe in strongly enough to fight for over the long term.

3) Fear Not
Martin Luther King acknowledged the reality of fear, and he encouraged people to honestly confront the fears that block their emotional, spiritual and political growth. The image of Dr. King’s seeming fearlessness in the face of arrests, beatings and, ultimately, assassination, models how an inspired leader acknowledges fearful things but finds the courage to respond with love and righteousness. King’s sermon, titled “Antidotes for Fear,” begins with a citation of the Bible verse 1 John 4:18: “There is no fear in love.” King comments, “Hatred and bitterness can never cure the disease of fear; only love can do that. Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illumines it.”

What inspires you about Martin Luther King’s leadership?

Married to a Meth Addict, She Had Difficult Choices to Make

Posted on March 11, 2026April 10, 2026 by Brett Leveridge

Hi, my name is Erin, and this is my story of overcoming addiction—or my family’s story. My husband had a problem with substance abuse, and we have a beautiful family [and] we’ve been able to make it through and overcome a lot of things and overall, our life is much better now.

I think the warning signs are different for everyone. In my case and in my story, the warning signs for me is that the truths don’t add up. And he wasn’t acting the same, or you don’t really—you can’t substantiate any of the claims that he made and inconsistent truths. Another warning sign is just that that gut feeling that something’s wrong, and you need to trust it and listen to your gut. A substance abuser can so confidently lie to you, but then you start believing it and so you just need to really trust that something’s wrong.

Other warning signs are losing money, obviously, or not going to a job consistently, no check stubs. Those are things that were consistent with my family problems. And just know that you need to save yourself, so if you feel that something’s wrong, it probably is.

If you suspect that your loved one is using drugs or alcohol, even if you’re not certain, I think you should confront them. And even if they don’t tell you the truth, I think that first step is to not deny it, that it’s happening, but actually confront. It’s really hard, especially if your loved one is your child or your husband or wife; but enabling is the absolute worst thing that you can possibly do.

Enabling is basically giving in to your addict and not letting them feel the actual consequences of what happens. It’s like kind of trying to save them over and over. And so in my case, the enabling, things that I did, were I would try to help him find a job, so I’d actually fill out his job applications or I would pay the mortgage or provide a place for him to stay without him being able to do those things. So he doesn’t feel the natural consequence of him failing.

Making excuses, bailing him out of jail, giving him money—all of those things are enabling, and it’s actually more harmful and hurtful to the person because then they depend on you, that codependency, and then the enabler ends up feeling all of that pain and shame and everything even more than the addict does because they are so absorbed in the drug that they don’t see what they’re doing to other people. So it’s really the codependents and the enablers that feel the brunt of the pain.

Al-Anon was probably the thing that saved me. I learned, first and foremost, that I wasn’t alone in this world—that many, many, many people are going through something similar—or different, but they’ve had that similar feeling of guilt and shame and enabling and learning that what you did isn’t your fault. I mean, what draws you together are similar stories.

But I remember my first meeting that I went to. I went into the meeting; I didn’t say one word. And when somebody just wanted to say hello to me at the end, I just clammed up and I went back into my car and I cried and cried and cried. And I’ve been to many meetings where all the person can do is just cry and cry and cry, but I think that’s the very first step—just going and getting there because it’s so helpful.

I think, without the struggle, you don’t have the gratitude. And so the yin and the yang of life, you have to go through some hard stuff, but you learn a lot about yourself, and your family needs get stronger because of it. So we’re doing really well, and we’re happy. And every day is a blessing, and every day we have gratitude.

Marie Kondo’s 6 Top Decluttering Tips

Posted on March 11, 2026April 10, 2026 by Alikay Wood

Organizational expert Marie Kondo became a sensation in 2014 when her book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up was published in the United States. Kondo’s unique approach to tidying up has inspired thousands of people to clear out their homes and re-organize their belongings.

In December, her Netflix show, Tidying Up with Marie Kondo, premiered bringing her KonMari method of organizing to homes everywhere. Here are some of the top decluttering tips from the show:

1. Material possessions should spark joy

Many people approach disposing of their belongings by thinking about what items they actually use. Kondo advises people not to focus on the usefulness of an object, but on whether that possession sparks joy.

“The best way to choose what to keep and what to throw away is to take each item in one’s hand and ask: ‘Does this spark joy?’” Kondo wrote in The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. “If it does, keep it. If not, dispose of it. This is not only the simplest but also the most accurate yardstick by which to judge.”

2. Organize by category—not location

Many people assume a proper decluttering spree should progress through each room of their home. Kondo diverges from this method, recommending people organize by the category rather than the location, of their belongings.

Instead of organizing your bedroom and then your front hall closet, Kondo’s method prescribes a specific way to go through your belongings:

Clothing
Books
Papers
Miscellaneous
Mementos

For each step take all of the items in question out of their resting place and gather them in one location. Then go through them one by one, assessing whether those items spark joy.

3. Start with easy items

Kondo’s method is designed to start with items that are easy to let go of (clothes) and progress to things that are the most difficult to throw out (letters, cards and other sentimental items). The reason? As you tidy your other belongings, Kondo says you will feel lighter and begin to experience the positive benefits of tidying up. In turn, you will have stronger willpower when going through your most precious mementos.

4. Fold with care

Kondo doesn’t just believe that the items you own should spark joy—she thinks the way you store them should make access and clean up easy. She prefers folding to hanging—and has very specific rules for how to fold and roll clothes in a dresser.

For this reason she recommends the “filing method” of storing clothes. Instead of folding shirts and stacking horizontally, Kondo recommends stacking and lining shirts vertically in the drawer so you can see all of them at a glance.

5. First declutter, then organize

Some people want to skip the cleaning and get straight to organizing and storage. But in Kondo’s experience, purchasing complex storage systems is often unhelpful for long-term cleanliness.

“I have yet to see a house that lacked sufficient storage,” Kondo writes. “The real problem is that we have far more than we need or want.”

Kondo says to only begin organizing once you have decluttered and are sure of what items you will keep.

6. Tidy with an eye to the future

For Kondo, organizing is about way more than your physical space. In her view, once your space is clean, your mind is free to focus on emotional obstacles and find true joy.

“Wellness and mindfulness are about having an understanding of what sparks joy in your life and makes you feel the most happy,” Kondo told Elle Décor. “This leads to the overall wellness of a person’s life because they become aware of what they need to be themselves.”

Managing Early-Onset Alzheimer’s Challenges Couple

Posted on March 11, 2026April 10, 2026 by Ashley Lateef

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When NancyJo Borden starts her day, the specter of losing her mind to Alzheimer’s disease haunts her thoughts. She was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer’s in 2012 when she was 58.

At any moment, the Woodbury, Minnesota, woman knows she could plunge into darkness and dependency. But with the help of medications, exercise and music, NancyJo remains stable.

“If I can stay like this for any amount of time, I’m happy as a clam,” she says. “I’ll drive him (husband Keith) crazy, but I’ve always driven him crazy.”

“As long as she’s doing good at home, that’s fine,” Keith says. “It has a lot to do with having them (people with dementia) do a lot that they used to do. The more you do for them, the less they will do for themselves.”

Both say they are coming to grips with the disease, silencing the demons of doubt and eventuality—for now.

They bought a boat to recreate some of the fun of yesteryear: cruising the waters of nearby lakes, looking at houses along the shores and getting a lot of sun and fresh air.

NancyJo has found music soothes her . “Music is the best, and water is our Valium,” she says. She still has challenges, including counting money and repeating herself.

“I ask the same question over and over again. I ask him (Keith) and our friends to tell me when I do that. But it’s true that when you get older you forget.”

Some who have Alzheimer’s face confusion and anxiety at sundown, but not NancyJo.

“It’s the afternoon that’s the worst for me. I prefer to do things up until 1 p.m. I get worked up. I can’t control it. But at the same time it’s happening, I know that it’s happening. It’s hard to describe,” she says. “We are pretty quiet in the evening and watch TV.”

They recently hunkered down for 12 seasons, 289 episodes, of NCIS, the television drama involving a Naval crime unit.

An active life

She confronts exercise with vigor. “I do everything too fast – too much, too fast. I’ve always liked rowing because it’s an all-around exercise. I can watch TV if I want. That seems to help. All of my doctors, and the research, says you have to keep active.”

She also swats pickleballs on a court where she lives. “She keeps herself busy with adult coloring books and plays solitaire on her computer,” Keith says. “We are kind of both doing all right.”

One way Keith copes is to busy himself collecting items at auctions, garage sales and second-hand stores and reselling them on eBay. When he hunts for treasures, NancyJo goes with him sometimes.

She also cooks and, “does everything she used to do,” says Keith. Keith and NancyJo continue to learn about Alzheimer’s disease.

NancyJo reads about it and wants to tour a center specializing in care for it. Keith says he is going to join a support group. They believe the best is the here and now.

Making Peace with Anger

Posted on March 11, 2026April 10, 2026 by Brian A. Shields

When I was young, I used to believe that if one person gets angry at another, the relationship would fall apart. Growing up in my family of four, I chose the role of peace-maker to hold the family together by not expressing anger or “rocking the boat.”

It wasn’t until I was in training to be a chaplain that my worldview about anger changed. During my first unit of Clinical Pastoral Education, a colleague and I had a disagreement and got angry with each other in one of our first group activities. Yet, we chose to remain in relationship. We had lunch together to discuss our different meanings about what we said. As a result of this, we became the closest dyad in our peer group by the end of the unit! I learned that anger does not mean severed connection.

Before I had that paradigm shift regarding my perception of anger, I would have never thought of bringing my anger to God. I have heard it said by some of the faithful, “God makes no mistakes, so I can’t be angry at God.” Or, patients and families I serve at the hospital where I am chaplain may state, “You know I can’t get angry at God because of this [illness, death, unforeseen health challenge].”

I call these Christian bubble wrap. These statements permit followers of Christ (in particular) the ability to suppress natural emotions like anger in hopes that God’s feelings won’t get hurt. But just like our relationships with people, our relationship with the Divine can not only withstand anger, but can be made stronger.

As we participate in Lent, we have opportunity to live in the wilderness experience of Jesus and remember that even He got angry. God incarnate, Jesus, having “been tempted in every way” (Hebrews 4:15), can definitely identify with our anger.

Scripture states that even his closest companions–the disciples–did not fully understand Him or believe what He taught. Jesus, being fully human at the time, I infer, got angry. “Can you not watch with me for one hour?” He asked His disciples when they fell asleep instead of praying with Him in Matthew 26:40. And that was after Matthew 21 when Jesus “turns over the tables of the money changers,” and took a whip and cords to chase everyone out of the temple. Jesus likely was angry then too.

How about in the garden of Gethsemane when Judas fulfills the Scripture and betrays Jesus? Could it be Christ got angry because this ultimately set the wheels in motion for His death?

Yes, all of that had to happen to fulfill Scripture, but Jesus was as much human as He was God and surely had the right to be angry by the betrayal of His friend.

God gave us our emotions to help us understand ourselves and each other better. Since it is human and normal for us to be angry, I suggest, instead of burying our painful emotions and pretending they don’t exist, we befriend our emotions, as the theologian Henri Nouwen puts it–especially anger. Let’s not dismiss anger or ignore it in the name of Christian decency. Let us take it to God in prayer.

Low-Sugar Smoothie

Posted on March 11, 2026April 10, 2026 by Tanya Richardson

Store-bought smoothies contain a lot of sugar, so I experimented until I came up with a terrific-tasting, homemade low-sugar recipe. Frozen fruit makes it icy cold, and plain yogurt, all-natural stevia sweetener and low-sugar berries make it extra healthy. And if you don’t mind added sugar, try using bananas or peaches, and ginger gives any smoothie an extra kick!

Ladies, start your blenders!

Ingredients

2 c. plain low-fat yogurt	1 c. frozen blueberries
1 Tbsp. fiber or protein powder	½ c. water
1 c. frozen strawberries	1 packet stevia sweetener

Preparation

1. Put yogurt, powder, strawberries, blueberries, water and stevia into a blender and pulse on low setting. Blend until smooth.

2. Pour into a glass and enjoy.

Serves two.

Nutritional Information: Calories: 250; Fat: 4.5g; Cholesterol: 15mg; Sodium: 200mg; Total Carbohydrates: 38g; Dietary Fiber: 5g; Sugars: 29g; Protein: 17g.

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Love, Renewed: A Marriage Strengthened by Strife

Posted on March 11, 2026April 10, 2026 by Marilyn K. Strube

Retirement. I wasn’t just looking forward to it. I yearned for it like a desert nomad glimpsing an oasis shimmering in the distance. After 40 years of marriage, of raising five daughters in the Detroit suburbs, of hard work—especially with my husband Joe’s demanding job in management at General Motors—this was finally going to be our time. To really be with each other. To reconnect. To fall in love all over again.

Then one terrible moment derailed everything and dispelled my vision of retirement for the mirage it was.

Father’s Day, 2012. Joe was newly retired, and we were riding our bikes around the little town of Reed City, Michigan, where we’d just bought a second home to be closer to our daughter Susan and our “up north” grandchildren. Pedaling leisurely, admiring the quaint old houses, we felt like the carefree teenagers we’d been when we started courting.

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I came down a steep hill and rounded a corner just as a woman was backing out of her driveway. She hit the brakes. I waved and went by. Joe was a little bit behind me. I was almost to the next corner when I heard a sickening crunch. A scream. I turned. Joe lay sprawled on the street.

I raced to him. Blood trickled from his ear; his eyes were rolled back in his head. “Babe, please don’t die,” I pleaded, stroking his cheek. “Stay with me. This is our time, remember?”

His injuries—three skull fractures and a brain bleed—were too severe for the local hospital to treat him. An ambulance rushed him to a trauma center in Grand Rapids, an hour away. Susan and I followed in her car.

The ER chief met us. Joe lay unconscious on a gurney, hooked up to an IV drip of pain meds. “He coded when he got here,” the doctor said. “But he’s stable now. There’s a lot of swelling. We’re admitting him to the neuro ICU. We’ll re-scan him in the morning.”

An orderly handed me a clear plastic bag with Joe’s clothing. I choked back a sob. They’d had to cut everything off him, even his favorite University of Michigan sneakers.

I stayed by his bedside all night. The CT scan in the morning showed no change. “That’s the best we can hope for right now,” the doctor told me.

A few hours later they moved Joe to the regular neuro floor. Another good sign, I thought. The nurse closed the blinds and turned off all the lights in his room. “Your husband’s brain is trying to reboot,” she said. “He needs as little sensory stimulation as possible.”

I silenced my cell phone and sat in the dark, listening for his every breath. Joe was a whiz with numbers and computers—a math major at Michigan, a data guy for the actuaries in GM’s finance division. Over the years, he’d moved up the ranks to senior manager. His mind was always working.

What if it never works right again? What if…? I stopped myself. No, I couldn’t go there.

Forty-eight hours after the accident, Joe regained consciousness. A team of therapists evaluated him. One got him to stand and take a few steps. He moved stiffly, like a robot. The therapist tried to get him to focus on her. His gaze wandered.

She gently took his face in her hands and said, “Hi, Joe. Who’s this lovely lady next to you?”

He glanced around, his eyes finally falling on me. “Joe?” he said tentatively.

“This is your wife, Marilyn.”

“Okay,” Joe said.

Not a flicker of recognition. I leaned against the wall and took a deep breath, trying to keep it together.

That night, while Joe slept, I laid my head on his chest, hoping the steady beat of his heart would reassure me. It didn’t. I played an old voice mail from him I’d forgotten to delete. “Babe, pick up. Pick up. Okay. You’re not there. I’m stopping at Bangkok Express. Chicken gang gai, right? Love you!” Kissing sounds.

Will he ever be the same again? Lord, bring Joe back. I’ll do whatever you ask, whatever he needs.

Joe was transferred to a new, state-of-the-art traumatic brain injury unit close to our home in the Detroit suburbs. The chief neurologist asked me what Joe was like before the accident.

“He was the smartest man I knew,” I said. I told him how Joe had excelled at his job, writing computer programs. “That’s not all. He played guitar and wrote songs. He made me laugh.”

The doctor handed me a tissue. I hadn’t realized I was crying.

“Your husband may do all those things again one day, but it’s going to be a long, slow haul,” he said. “How slow?”

“Usually whatever skills a TBI patient is going to regain, he regains within eighteen months to three years. Initially, Joe will need your help with almost everything. You’ll play a big part in his recovery.” I could deal with all that. Anything to get back the man I loved.

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I was at the TBI unit every day from 7:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. Joe couldn’t remember how to use a phone, so I called for his meals and set up his bed tray. I read him simple passages and tested his recall. I asked his therapists—he had speech, physical and occupational therapy—lots of questions, trying to soak up as much knowledge as I could.

A month after the accident, Joe was released, with a walker, into my care. I threw myself into being his caregiver. I made a chart to keep track of his 20 prescriptions. I drove him to therapists, doctors, the pharmacy. Joe didn’t like it. He was used to being in the driver’s seat and he’d drum his hand on the passenger door to show his annoyance.

Otherwise we didn’t get out much. Loud noises—cars honking, a dog barking—made Joe anxious. He couldn’t sit through a movie. The few times I invited friends over, he got upset at not being able to follow the conversation.

While he napped during the day, I cooked, cleaned, dealt with our finances (which Joe had handled before) and made phone calls. The only people I talked to regularly were doctors’ assistants and health-insurance reps. I texted everyone else, even our daughters, or posted Facebook updates. Week by week, month by month,

Joe regained his skills. Speech. Simple math. Walking unaided. His therapists cheered him on. I was surprised to find I had mixed feelings. Not surprised, no. Shocked. I was grateful Joe was getting better. Definitely.

But the stronger he got, the harder it was to care for him. He wanted to take charge of his pills but I didn’t trust him not to miss a dose. He chafed at my reminding him to exercise but he wouldn’t do it on his own. He never used to be difficult. Now he’d snap at me over anything I did to help him.

Not that I let on that things were getting to me. His neurologist had told me personality changes were common with brain injuries. I couldn’t confront Joe. Before, he would’ve taken what I said in stride; now his eyes filled with tears if he thought I was mad at him.

I kept my Facebook posts and text messages simple and upbeat. I couldn’t exactly write, “Joe is so stubborn! Everything has to be his way. I’m sick of it.” Who wanted to hear how frustrated I was? How I collapsed in bed at night wishing this had all been a bad dream?

Eighteen months post-trauma, Joe was back to handling our finances, cutting the grass, riding his bike (with a helmet). Then he was cleared to drive again. His therapists and doctors marveled at his recovery. I worried that they weren’t being cautious enough.

I was afraid of his driving alone. Especially in Detroit traffic. We sold our house in the suburbs and moved permanently to Reed City. The small-town environment was healing for him. I could almost see the tension leaving him.

The tension between us? That worsened. Joe wanted to assert his independence. I questioned him closely to make sure he took his medication correctly. I fussed if he didn’t tell me where he was going and for how long. I had to know his whereabouts. What if he got confused, as he still did occasionally? What if, God forbid, there was another emergency?

Maybe it was because being his caregiver was so intense, but it didn’t feel much like we were husband and wife anymore. When I told Joe I loved him, he’d reply, “Okay.” He rarely took my hand or hugged me. I kept listening to that old voice mail, trying to recapture the Joe who had been so sweet and loving.

Replaying the voice mail one night, I came across several others I hadn’t deleted. Messages in which Joe apologized for forgetting to pick something up or having to miss some event. Something or someone at work was always more important than me, than our family.

Listening to those messages, I wanted to lay into him. I wanted to tell him how badly he’d hurt me, how alone I’d felt sometimes raising our daughters while he worked late or was away on business.

But I didn’t. Joe’s memory had taken a hit because of the TBI, and things I brought up he often didn’t remember. What good would dredging up the past do? It was the accident that ruined our retirement. So I buried my anger and resentment, just as I’d been doing all those years.

This time, though, my feelings wouldn’t stay buried. The next day I found myself blurting out some not-so-fond memories, like the weekend our long-awaited family camping trip became just the girls and me because—surprise, surprise—something came up at Joe’s work.

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I went nuts the afternoon Joe left to help a buddy move stuff and forgot to tell me where he was going. “Where have you been?” I screamed when he got home. “I was so worried!”

By the time we went downstate for his final follow-up with his neurologist, two years after the accident, Joe and I were barely talking. The whole four-hour drive there the car was quiet.

The neurologist’s waiting room was empty except for a young pregnant woman with a toddler. I didn’t feel like chatting, but she started telling me that her husband was seeing the neurologist because he’d been in a motorcycle accident. “It makes me sad that he won’t be able to be there for me with our new baby the way he was with our first,” she said.

She kept talking. I only half-listened, thinking back to my own pregnancies and deliveries. Joe was with me for every birth, feeding me ice chips, rubbing my back, breathing with me. I thought about how when I was 46 and the girls were grown, I’d wanted to fulfill my dream of going to college.

Even though my tuition put a strain on our budget, Joe supported me 100 percent. That’s why at my graduation I wrote in glitter glue on my mortarboard, “Thank you, Joe!” Anything the girls or I needed or wanted, he made it happen without a word of complaint. Which was also why he’d gotten so far in his career. He was the same with his bosses.

I guiltily remembered those Friday nights he came home exhausted from work yet was still willing to go out to dinner or a movie or the symphony with me.

Those moments that were truly just ours were rare, and I longed for more. So I’d pinned all my hopes on retirement. Our time. No wonder I was angry and resentful about the accident and its aftermath. I felt like my hopes had been shattered when in fact, it was my unrealistic expectations.

I looked at Joe, sitting quietly in the neurologist’s waiting room, and I knew what he needed, what God was asking. Love your husband. For the man he was. And the man he is.

The drive home was the opposite of the drive down. I thanked Joe for all the ways he’d been there for me, for our family. I reminisced about the happy times we’d had, even though I wasn’t sure he’d remember. “I was scared we wouldn’t have more time together,” I admitted. “That’s why I’ve been so upset.”

Joe reached over and squeezed my hand. “I love you, Marilyn.”

A few days later we went to an antiques mall. We each went off on our own for a while. When I caught up with Joe, he was flipping through some old records.

“Look what I found!” he said. “The first present I ever got you.”

He handed me a 45. I had forgotten. The Carpenters’ “We’ve Only Just Begun.” Our wedding entrance song.

Somehow the lyrics meant more now, 42 years after our wedding day. There was still so much of life ahead for us to live. Together.

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Love and Kindness for the New Year

Posted on March 11, 2026April 10, 2026 by Michelle Cox

Sometimes children are the best teachers. Last week my five-year-old granddaughter, Ava, came over to bake Christmas cookies. After we’d finished, Ava said, “Grandmama, will you come up to the toy room and play with me?” She took me by the hand, and we walked up the stairs to the room my husband and I have stocked with toys and games.

“Come see how I’ve arranged the stuffed animals,” she said. She’d placed them on the rocking chair and on the floor around it. Then she said the words that stuck in my heart, “They’ve been trained to be kind, to love and to give hugs.”

Oh, baby girl, there’s such wisdom in those words. I couldn’t help but wonder how different our world would be if more of us were trained to be kind, to love and to give hugs.

I was reminded of that lesson about kindness recently while I was in Memphis to be part of the taping of a Christmas show. Gospel musician and Grammy winner Jason Crabb was one of the performers. When I was introduced to him, I got a warm greeting, a hug and a kiss on the cheek. And I wasn’t the only one. As I watched him throughout the day at sound checks, dinner, and before, during, and after the show, his kindness—his realness—shone through.

It didn’t matter if he was meeting the millionaire businessman who was there for the evening, the film crew or the tiny senior citizen lady who wanted to talk to him, each was greeted with a hug, a kind word and the love that Jesus talked about.

After we finished the taping, I stopped at Jason’s merchandise table as the crowd was winding down so I could give him a hug and tell him what a joy it had been to meet him. He said, “Do you have all my stuff?” Turning to his team members he said, “Get her all my stuff.” They started piling things in bags.

When I got back to the hotel that night, I discovered all of Jason’s CDs, his five children’s books, and his Jase the Crab stuffed animal. It was a lovely gift, but the true gift was the example Jason had shown that night—of what we can become when we allow God to train us to be kind, to love and to give hugs.

And I think that’s a great example for all of us to take into the New Year.

Louie Giglio Gets Real about Battling Depression and Anxiety

Posted on March 11, 2026April 10, 2026 by Jessica Toomer

If a church member wants to talk to Passion City Church pastor Louie Giglio about anxiety or depression, Giglio isn’t just a sympathetic listener. He speaks from experience.

The author and founder of the Passion Movement, which brings together young adults looking to grow and strengthen their faith, went through a debilitating struggle that began several years ago.

“I literally woke up in a panic thinking I was going to die at 2 o’clock in the morning,” Giglio tells Guideposts.org. That moment sent him on a months-long downward spiral into depression, fear, and darkness.

“Spiritually I was out of whack,” Giglio recalls. “Mentally, for sure, I probably had something close to a nervous breakdown. I didn’t leave the house most days for a long, long time. I had to seek medical help. I sought spiritual help. I cried out to God. It was a very, very dark season of life.”

Giglio’s been open about his mental health journey, most recently in his book, The Comeback, but in his new book, Goliath Must Fall, the pastor sought to use his own struggles to help others and bust some misconceptions about anxiety and depression in the church.

“I keep wanting to unpack that because so many people are struggling with it,” he explains. “I’m a pastor and there are people in our church here and in others that I run into almost every day who are frozen with anxiety. I’m talking about middle school kids and nine year olds and business professionals and CEOs and moms. It’s not just one slice of life.”

For Giglio, learning to manage his anxiety is still an ongoing lesson in faith, trust, and acceptance.

“You have to start over again and I needed to start all over again, my brain needed to start all over again, my nervous system had to reboot again and all that took time,” Giglio says. “Almost six months time, but when you go through something like that it marks you. I don’t struggle every day with anxiety, but I am marked by what I went through and it’s still relevant to me every single day.

His new book doesn’t offer a quick fix.

“I’m not telling people , ‘Just do this simple little spiritual formula and poof, you’re going to forget about all your troubles.’ If you’ve been through the fire of divorce or the fire of addiction or the fire of anger or the fire of great loss or abuse, you’re going to be marked by that, but what I’m trying to encourage people in is that doesn’t have to define you and it doesn’t have to define your outlook on life.”

Goliath Must Fall takes lessons from one of the most well-known stories in the Bible and applies them to every-day life, but first, he re-teaches the story of David and Goliath.

“The problem is that most of us know that in and of our own strength, we can’t defeat these giants that are in our lives,” Giglio says. “Ask anyone who’s struggled with rejection or struggled with anger or struggled with fear, anxiety, or depression. A lot of people have been around the block dozens of times trying to makes changes, but yet the giant is still there. The beauty in the book is that we’re not David in the story of David and Goliath. From our perspective, Jesus is the giant slayer in the story. Jesus is David in the story of David and Goliath and He takes down the giants on our behalf and so we just learn to walk in what He’s already done for us.”

To really face your giants, Giglio says you have to dig deep into what’s causing you pain, fear, or anxiety.

“Anxiety isn’t a thing. It’s the symptom of a thing and so we have to go a little deeper and ask a question, ‘What is making me anxious?’” he explains. “I gave too much credit just to anxiety. What was happening was something or someone was making me anxious and so I try to help and encourage people to go one step further, to go beneath the surface to ask, ‘What is it that I’m afraid of? Who is it that I’m afraid of? What was said that I wish I could now mange the way it was said?’ I was trying to manage every outcome and I was trying to watch over my shoulder all the time.”

The book outlines steps for preparing for the big battles in your own life, even the invisible ones. Giglio says plenty of people aren’t struggling with depression and anxiety like he was, but they might be unknowingly fighting a trickier problem.

“One of the giants we talked about in the book is the giant of comfort and I think for a normal person floating through life, they’re like, ‘Comfort’s a good thing. I’m trying to make my life as comfortable as I can,’ but for believers who think that there’s something greater than this present life, comfort isn’t always the best thing,” Giglio explains. “We’re looking to make our lives count. We’re looking to make a difference in the world. We’re looking to serve and help people and no one who’s ever done that in the world has had a comfortable life.”

Lou Gehrig’s Disease Taught Author John R. Paine to Trust God

Posted on March 11, 2026April 10, 2026 by John R. Paine

John R. Paine had it all. He was a respected businessman, devout Christian and dedicated father.

Then he received a diagnosis that changed everything. He had ALS, also known as Lou Gehrig’s disease, and was told he wouldn’t live long.

Seventeen years later, Paine has long outlived the doctor’s prognosis. He uses a wheelchair to move and a ventilator to breathe, but has found deep joy in his relationship with God. Paine shares his story of pain and spiritual formation in his new book The Luckiest Man.

In this excerpt from his book The Luckiest Man, Paine opens up about how ALS opened his eyes to the beauty of depending on God.

Saying Good-Bye

I’d said goodbye to so many things: climbing stairs, swimming, scratching any given itch. I’d hired a full-time driver who doubled as a part-time caretaker. I’d maintained the rhythm of my evenings, perhaps my favorite part of any day, though I knew it was only a matter of time before that changed too.

Margaret has always been an early-to-bed kind of girl, and in those days, she’d settle into bed sometime around nine o’clock each evening. I’d make my way to my favorite deep-cushioned chair by the bed, often reading until close to eleven. Satisfied, I’d settle into bed and fall asleep, spent. It was a good arrangement, one that worked for me. I was growing weaker, though, and with each passing night, I found myself struggling to maintain the rhythm. My arms now dead, Margaret would open my book, set it in my lap, and place my hands on either side. With my right thumb and forefinger, I’d turn the pages with great care, sliding the edge under the fingers of my resting left hand. It was a tedious process and grew more tedious by the day. When I was finished, I’d stand, shuffle to the bed where Margaret had pulled the covers back, and with a series of arm slings and knee raises, I’d pull the covers over my chest before falling to sleep. It was unconventional, but isn’t so much about adapting to death?

It was a night like any other, though I should have seen it coming. The routine had been the same—the chair, the book, the pulled-back covers. Having had my fill of reading, I stood, allowed the book to fall from my lap to the floor. I dragged to the bed, then stretched myself under the covers. I tried to sling my arms up using my knees, tried to throw the covers over my chest; I couldn’t. It was no use; I couldn’t cover myself.

I turned to look at Margaret, already asleep, and there was no way I would wake that kind of resting peace. Pity set in—self-pity is a difficult battle for the ALS patient—as I realized there was no feasible way to solve this problem. In that pity, I was overcome by emotion. Tomorrow night, would I have to turn in with Margaret? Would I have to let her tuck me in and turn off the lights? Would I stare up at the dark ceiling, unable to move until I was able to fall asleep hours later? Did I have to say goodbye to my favorite part of the day?

I rolled to my side and climbed out of bed, arms dangling. I shuffled back to the chair I’d just left and sat in fresh awareness of my newest loss. Why tonight? Why ever, really?

I felt the sadness and resentment and depression creeping in, knew that this kind of self-pity made life so much darker, so I turned to prayer. I waited for an answer, a sense, anything. I heard nothing. I waited, started praying again, and that’s when a movie started playing in my mind’s eye. It was the video of my life. I was a young boy in Tyler, running from home, pushing past the boundaries my parents had set. I was a college student in love, but I was spending more time away from Margaret, more time pursuing academic achievement. I was married, working for Mr. Hill, and asserting my independence more and more. I was a successful builder, an entrepreneur, a self-made man. I was sitting in the doctor’s office, the recipient of a terminal diagnosis, and even in my success, I felt so alone. Where were my parents? Where was Mr. Hill? Where was Margaret, really? They were a part of my life, sure, but were they in it? Were we connected in intimacy, connected in such a way that would help me carry the load? Hadn’t all my assertions of independence been nothing more than acts of isolation?

That’s when I felt the words, flooding.

I created you for dependence on me and others. Your pursuit of independence pushed all of us to arm’s length. Say goodbye to independence. Really.

Conviction is a difficult thing. First, He’d convicted me of my understanding of His love, then of ways I sought validation. Now He was showing me that dependence was not weakness, so long as I was dependent on the right things. And just as it had in those other moments, this new moment of conviction brought a sorrow with it. This false independence, all this striving to prove my self-sufficiency—what was it worth? How had I missed this truth, that God created us for proper dependence? I knew it at once—the false John Paine had made this kind of dependence impossible. How could I confess my failures, my weaknesses, my inadequacies, if I needed others to believe that I had the answer to every problem? To admit I needed others would require an act of transparency, of confession. Wouldn’t it?

It was a moment triggered by the silliest thing—my inability to cover up—but it exposed a deeper, longer trend. Now I felt myself invited into something new: the admission of my need for others was necessary if I was to kill the false man. Only through this death of the false man could I plumb the depths of intimacy.

I will care for you as you learn to give in, I heard in that moment. I have you covered.

I’d learned to trust these inklings, these deeper leadings of God, and so, I stood from my chair and made my way back to my bed. I scooted my feet under the covers again and waited for something to happen. Margaret stirred, raised up on her elbow, and pulled the covers up over me. She lay back down, still sound asleep.

“Margaret?” I whispered.

No answer.

“Margaret?”

Still no answer.

“Thank you, Lord,” I prayed into the dark.

Losing Weight with Friends

Posted on March 11, 2026April 10, 2026 by Traci Tate

I sat on the couch at my parents’ house next to my younger sister, Jamie, my eyes fixed on a photo of me with my brother-in-law, David, taken earlier that day. Triple chin. Rolls on my stomach. I knew I was overweight, but did I really look like that? “Is this what you see when you look at me?” I asked Jamie incredulously.

“Um…yes, T, it is,” she said, measuring her words.

Jamie and I are both nurses. I knew obesity led to serious health issues like high blood pressure and diabetes—I’d seen it in patients. But I was in denial about how overweight I was. I hadn’t stepped on a scale in six years. Diets? They never lasted. Exercise? As if I had energy after working the late shift at the hospital. I didn’t have energy for much of anything now. I’d stopped going out with friends or to church. I didn’t want people staring at me, judging me. But now that I was staring at my photo, I couldn’t blame them. I didn’t want to live like this anymore. “Help me, Jamie,” I said, fighting back tears.

“Well, T…I never told you this, but after you helped me beat cancer, I prayed that when you were ready God would let me help you lose weight.”

If anyone could help me it was Jamie. She was strong, disciplined, motivated. Everything I wasn’t. At just 26 she was diagnosed with breast cancer. David and I took turns driving her to doctor’s appointments, running errands, watching their two kids. Not that Jamie dialed back any. She kept working full-time, volunteering at church. She even took up running and often jogged after chemo treatments. I’d tell her not to do so much. “I’m going to keep living my life,” she’d say. When Jamie went into remission it felt like the three of us—she, David and I—had beat cancer together, as a team. To celebrate, she ran the Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure.

Two years ago, the cancer came back. After six weeks of grueling radiation, Jamie went into remission again.

“Jamie, you beat a life-threatening disease,” I said now. “This isn’t the same.”

“Hello, T! Obesity is life-threatening!

We’re going to tackle it one step at a time. Each Sunday I’ll give you a new goal for the week. Sound good?”

I had all kinds of doubts but I knew better than to argue with Jamie. “I’m in,” I said, almost as if I were surrendering.

Sunday evening Jamie called me at work. “Here we go! Goal one: Weigh yourself every Monday,” she said. “It’ll keep you accountable. No more denial.”

The next day one of my coworkers put me on the scale. She pushed the metal bar to the 350-pound limit. It didn’t balance. My mouth fell open. She took me to the bariatric scale, wide enough to roll a wheelchair onto. The digital readout showed 399. Almost 400 pounds! I called Jamie in tears. “I’ll never lose this weight!” I cried.

“That number will go down,” Jamie said firmly. “Give yourself a chance.”

Then David got on the line. “We believe in you, T. Take down your walls and let God back in. He wants to help you.”

I’d expected my sister to stand by me, but David’s support gave me a boost. And truth was, I missed having God in my life. I started with a prayer before bed each night: Lord, give me strength to get healthy so I can live my best life for you.

The second week, Jamie gave me a new goal: “Don’t eat after dinner and avoid drinks with calories.”

“But I usually drink a soda and…”

“No, T,” Jamie said, cutting me off.

Later in the hospital cafeteria, I looked longingly at a can of Coke. But I bought a diet cola instead. Before I clocked out, Jamie called again. I told her what I’d done. “Awesome!” she said. “Now go home and go right to bed.”

Bed? I usually stopped at a fast-food joint, then stayed up late watching TV. Grudgingly, I set my alarm for early the next morning. I woke up feeling energized. Same thing the next few days. Maybe this wasn’t going to be as hard as I thought. Then, on the fifth day, I gave into a craving for a high-calorie soda. “I feel like a loser,” I told Jamie.

“T, we all have setbacks. I’m here for you.” She had me memorize Proverbs 3:5: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” David got on the phone. “T, I know you’re discouraged, but you can do this. Remember Philippians 2:14: ‘Do everything without grumbling or arguing.’”

My third goal? Shop smart and cook healthy. Sunday afternoon Jamie took me to the grocery store (David was away on business). She showed me how to read labels and loaded my cart with fresh fruits and low-calorie, low-fat replacements for my favorite foods. That night I got an even bigger surprise. My phone rang. David calling from the road! “Here’s a quick tip,” he said. “Trade chips for carrots—they’re crunchy and packed with flavor. Keep going, T. You’ve got this.” For the first time I started to believe it.

Jamie and David’s program got results. Four weeks in I’d lost 30 pounds. I stuck with their advice for the next few months. “You’re doing great! Now it’s time to start walking,” Jamie said. “Come over tomorrow morning.”

Walking? Well, at least it wasn’t running! Oh, how wrong I was. I got winded just a few paces in. Then we came to a hill. “No way,” I moaned.

“Think about James 1: ‘Consider it pure joy when you face trials because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance,’” Jamie said.

Was that where Jamie got her strength? From her faith? If she can beat cancer, the least I can do is walk up this hill. I put one foot in front of the other. Before I knew it we were on the other side.

“See! You did it!” Jamie shouted.

Soon Jamie and I were walking a few days a week. One day David set dumbbells in front of me. “You’re a rockstar, T! Let’s add these in now.” He showed me a weight-training routine. I couldn’t believe how easily I picked it up.

I lost 100 pounds in six months. Even better, I felt lighter in spirit because I found a new church. Yes, people looked at me but only to welcome me—and then to listen to my weight-loss story.

I’ve lost 200 pounds so far. I’m strong, determined and living for God. I couldn’t have done it without Jamie and David. Which reminds me of my new favorite verse, Matthew 18:20: “When two or three come together in my name, there I am with them.” Now that’s teamwork.

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