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20 Beautiful Lent Quotes to Inspire You



Lent is a holy time of spiritual discipline and connection with God. These 40 days leading up to the Easter season can sometimes be trying, as we each pick something to give up in our lives. We might abstain from chocolate, alcohol, social media, negative thoughts or sarcasm. Whatever we choose, we can use Lenten prayers and inspirational Lent quotes to stay on our faith journey.

Orange and boxed Lent quote by Thomas Merton

Inspirational Lent Quotes

Stay inspired throughout the Lent season with these powerful quotes. Think about what the Lent season means to you and how you will spend it. What will you learn about yourself during Lent? What will you learn about your relationship with God?

  • “Even the darkest moments of the liturgy are filled with joy, and Ash Wednesday, the beginning of the Lenten fast, is a day of happiness, a Christian feast.” Thomas Merton
  • “Lent is a time of going very deeply into ourselves… What is it that stands between us and God? Between us and our brothers and sisters? Between us and life, the life of the Spirit? Whatever it is, let us relentlessly tear it out, without a moment’s hesitation.” —Catherine Doherty
  • “Hold on dear friend, for this is not the end. You have traveled so far and you have worked so hard. Carry on with courage and do not give up. And not because things will be easy but because these seeds you are sowing matter, and they will grow in time, if you do not lose heart.” —Morgan Harper Nichols
  • “God refuses to give up, and we who are enlisted to be fellow-workers with God know that the only reason we continue is that death did not have the last word; that Good Friday was not the end of the story.” Desmond Tutu

Smoky blue Lent quote by Saint Catherine of Siena

Saint Quotes on Lent

Let the wise words of the saints guide you through Lent. Each of them lived lives of devotion and sacrifice. What can we learn from their quotes? Perhaps the act of giving something up can also teach us about the act of giving something back.

  • “Nothing great is ever achieved without much enduring.” —Saint Catherine of Siena
  • “Do you wish your prayer to fly toward God? Make for it two wings: fasting and almsgiving.” —Saint Augustine of Hippo
  • “My whole strength lies in prayer and sacrifice; these are my invincible arms; they can move hearts far better than words, I know it by experience.” Saint Therese of Lisieux
  • “Men lose all the material things they leave behind them in this world, but they carry with them the reward of their charity and the alms they give.” Saint Francis of Assisi

READ MORE: How to Pray with the Saints

pink flowers with a lent quote by Pop Francis

Short Lent Quotes

Need a quick pick-me-up of inspiration during the Lenten season? You might be surprised by how much a short Lent quote can help you. Make the micro habit of placing them somewhere you can see them through all 40 days, like in your daily planner, on a sticky note by your desk, or a notepad next to your bed.

  • “O Lord, make this Lenten season different from the other ones. Let me find you again. Amen.” —Henri Nouwen
  • “The less we have, the more we give. Seems absurd, but it’s the logic of love.” Mother Teresa
  • “During Lent, let us find concrete ways to overcome our indifference.” —Pope Francis
  • “Uproot vices and root values anytime, anywhere and any day.” ―Ifeanyi Enoch Onuoha

Empty road stretching toward the sunset with a Lent quote by Howard Thurman

Lent Quotes About Fasting

Fasting from whatever we are giving up during Lent can be challenging. Whether you are giving up sugar or spending less time on your cellphone, quotes about fasting can help you stay on track. See if you can stay inspired enough to continue any positive habits you pick up past the Lenten season.

  • “Lenten fasts make me feel better, stronger, and more active than ever.” —Catherine of Genoa
  • “Keep fresh before me the moments of my high resolve.” Howard Thurman
  • “There’s something about it that makes sense, Lent. You give something up, and everything’s more joyful.” —Elaine Stritch
  • “The Lent period of fasting should be passionately pursued.” ―Lailah Gifty Akita

READ MORE: 10 Inspiring Bible Verses for Fasting

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Lent Quotes from the Bible

The 40 days of Lent signify the 40 days that Jesus spent in the wilderness, fasting and resisting temptation. Even though the word “Lent ” is not in the Bible, we can still look to Scripture for comfort and prayer as you move through your own 40 days of sacrifice. May these quotes from the Bible keep you motivated through the Lenten season, from Ash Wednesday to Easter Sunday.

  • “You know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.” —James 1:3
  • “Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.” —1 Peter 5:6
  • “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” —Matthew 6:33
  • “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” —Romans 12:12

READ MORE: 20 More Lent Bible Verses for Reflection and Guidance

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18 Best Micro Habits to Improve Your Life in Minutes

What are Micro Habits?

Micro habits are small yet meaningful practices that will improve your life when done consistently. They differ from regular habits in that they are simpler, and you can usually do them in a few minutes. But that doesn’t mean they are less impactful. Micro habits can be as simple as stretching for three minutes before work or journaling for five minutes after a hard day. Making positive micro habits and keeping them regularly can be an effective way to improve your life— whether that’s making you happier, healthier, more hopeful, or giving you a sense of purpose.

Benefits of Micro Habits

Woman sitting on her bed and writing in her journal about keeping her micro habits

Why try micro habits? With micro habits, the emphasis is truly on the small. What tiny changes can you add to your daily schedule that will make your day better? How much could your life benefit from doing something positive at least once a day? Benefits of micro habits include:

  • They are a productive way to make your everyday life better
  • They only take a few minutes out of your day
  • You can choose whatever micro habits work with your life
  • You can easily add them into your already busy schedule.

No need to upend how you spend your day or throw your calendar out the window. They are simple steps that can be taken within your current daily habits to bring more positivity to your life.

Here are some great examples of micro habits you can start today.

Micro Habits for Success

Businesswoman at her laptop looking excited after doing her micro habit for success

1. Wake Up Earlier

Setting your alarm for even fifteen minutes earlier than usual can help you get a jump start on your day. You’d be surprised how much adding in that small amount of time makes your mornings more relaxed and productive. What will you spend those extra minutes doing?

2. Make a To-Do List

As you sip your morning coffee or tea, make a short to-do list of what you want to get done that day. Whether you are looking for a productive day of errands and chores, or a relaxing day with rest and recuperation, write out your to-do’s with at least three things. A short list is a great micro habit to keep you on task.

3. Read an Inspiring Story

Reading about other people’s success stories can give us motivation and keep us inspired. Look up stories of people helping people or stories of hope and write down what lessons you can glean from them. Many stories can be read in a matter of minutes, making this a great micro habit. How can you bring important life lessons from these inspiring stories into your own life?

Micro Habits for Mondays

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4. Say a Monday Morning Prayer

We all know the slog of a Monday morning. It can be hard to feel positive when the fun-filled weekend is over, and the busy week is ahead of you. But that doesn’t mean you can’t enter Monday with a positive attitude and some effective micro habits. Start your Monday morning off with an uplifting prayer. Show God your gratitude for a weekend of rest and tell Him what you would like to get done this week.

5. Sing a Song

According to Healthline, singing can relieve stress and improve your mood. Start your Monday morning off by singing one of your favorite songs. Be sure it is an upbeat song with inspiring lyrics. You can sing in the shower or in the car on your way to work. Dropping the kids off at school? Have them join in! Healthline also says singing with others can help us feel more connected to each other.

6. Learn Something New

Fostering a sense of wonder can be an amazing way to bring positivity into your life. What better way to do that than by learning something new? Mondays are a great day to commit to this because you may already be feeling motivated for the work week. Pick out the subject that interests you beforehand, like history, art, science, current news, or spirituality. Then research podcasts or online publications that cover the topics. Many of them offer bite-sized content you can quickly listen to or read during your Monday.

Micro Habits for Work

Businesswoman at her desk with a cup of coffee doing a micro habit for work

7. Set a Productivity Timer

Having difficulty concentrating at work? Setting a productivity timer will help you focus on the task at hand. You can set that timer for whatever amount of time you have—fifteen minutes, thirty minutes, sixty minutes—and develop the habit of working consistently during that period. Just remember, it’s not a race. The idea is not to work against the clock, but with the clock. Let these minutes be your time to be positive and productive.

8. Set a Break Timer

Much like the previous micro habit, set a break timer for yourself in between your periods of productivity. Taking a mental rest during work is vital to avoiding burnout. An ideal time to do this can be between meetings or after finishing a task. Set that timer and commit to giving yourself a break. Use that time to step away from your work. If your job has you on your feet, take a rest by sitting in a quiet space. If you sit at a desk, get up and walk around.

9. Stretch

No matter what your job is, we can all benefit from a good stretch. Take five minutes out of your workday to do some low impact stretches. Even just rolling your shoulders and stretching your arms above your head can make a difference. Pick times during the day when stretching will be the most effective for you, whether that’s right when you start work, during your lunch break, or at the end of the day.

Micro Habits for Spiritual Growth

Woman at sunset praying as a micro habit for spiritual growth

10. Pray or Meditate for One Minute a Day

What if we all took one minute out of our day to slow down and connect with something bigger than ourselves? How could this benefit our lives and the world around us? Take some time to pray or do spiritual meditation daily. Find a quiet place to sit, slow your breathing, and close your eyes. Whether you are reaching out to God with your hopes or looking for a moment of peace, doing just one minute of prayer or meditation can improve your entire day.

11. Step Outside

Even if we have jam packed schedules or the weather is too chilly for a long walk, stepping outside for a few minutes can still do wonders. Look up at the sky—at the sunrise, clouds, birds moving overhead, or the sunset. Breathe in the fresh air and try to pinpoint the smells, like flowers, dirt, bonfires, or the salty sea air. Listen to the sound of nature around you, from the wind moving through the leaves to the dulcet melodies of birdsong.

12. Read a Bible Verse

Looking for some spiritual motivation during a long day? Make the micro habit of turning to the Bible for some inspiration. You can pick a beloved verse to revisit and add it to your daily prayer. Or think about something you want to accomplish that day—whether it’s something productive or taking time for rest—and find a piece of Scripture to guide you through it. Try opening the Bible once a day to a random page and seeing what words God has in store for you.

Micro Habits for Happiness

Young couple dancing in their kitchen after doing a micro habit for happiness

13. Laugh at Least Once a Day

What you choose to do during your day to day will have an impact on your happiness. Take a few minutes out of your day to laugh at least once. You can do this by calling up a friend to tell them a funny story, reaching out to a family member to reminisce about something hilarious that happened, or even looking up videos of animals doing funny things. The laughs are out there, you just need to make the micro habit of finding them.

14. Text a Friend

As we find happiness in our own life, what can we do to bring happiness to others? Take two minutes out of your day to text a friend and tell them how much you care about them. List out how they have had a positive effect on your life. You’ll be surprised how much this micro habit will bring a smile to their face, and your own. Nothing creates happiness faster than spreading it.

15. Count Your Blessings

Gratitude is an important part of feeling happier in our daily life. Pick a time during the day to make a list of the blessings in your life. You can do it in the morning before your day, or at night before you go to sleep. Keep the list nearby and add to it as you go. Return to the list and reflect on it when you need a pick-me-up. You can even use a gratitude journal to guide your feelings of thankfulness all year long.

Micro Habits for Good Sleep

Woman sleeping in bed after doing her micro habits for better sleep

16. Make Tea

As you wind down for the evening, pick up a mindful practice that will help your mind wind down. Making tea can be a great way to do this. As you take a teacup out of the cabinet and open the tea package, focus on your movements, and calm your breathing. Say a quick prayer as you wait for the water to boil. As you let the tea steep, watch the tea leaves blend with the water. Choose a tea with no caffeine that promotes a sense of calm. Many teas only take a few minutes to steep, so this is a great micro habit before bed.

17. Read One Chapter

Many people try to take up the habit of reading in bed. According to Healthline, reading a book before going to bed can ease stress, help with insomnia, and improve the quality of your sleep. Unfortunately, between cleaning up after dinner, preparing for the next day, tucking the kids in, and brushing our teeth, that habit sometimes doesn’t happen. So, take on the micro habit of reading just one chapter in bed. Even just five minutes of reading before you sleep can make a difference.

18. Relax Your Body One Muscle at a Time

Sometimes when we finally let our heads hit the pillow, our body is still on high alert from a busy day. As you lie in bed, take a few minutes to turn your focus on your body. Mindfully relax each of your muscles, starting from your toes and slowly moving up toward your head. If you find your mind drifting away from the practice, simply bring your attention back to your body and pick up where you left off. This micro habit can be done in a few minutes, all while you are lying down.

You may be finishing this list thinking, “how can just a few minutes bring more positivity into my life?” It’s all about how you spend those minutes. If you commit to doing something to improve your life, whether that is stretching, praying, or making a calming cup of tea, those minutes could be the most important part of your day. And you’ll be surprised how long those minutes will end up feeling. That’s the beauty of micro habits! They don’t require much of your time, yet they can still have a big impact on your life.

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16 Encouraging Bible Verses for Walking and Running

Running and brisk walking can be effective exercises to help you stay healthy. They can also be a source of great joy and determination in your day. Yet even the best runners sometimes need encouragement. Whether you are a beginner, an avid racer, or simply taking your daily walk, Scripture can give you the boost you need. Here are the best Bible verses for walking and running, that will inspire your exercise, from warm up to cool down:

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Bible Verses for Warming Up Before Running or Walking

A woman trying her shoelaces for a workout with Bible verses for walking and runningGive these Biblical verses a read before you head out on your run or walk. As you stretch or put your shoes on, let them remind you that taking care of your body is taking care of God’s gift to you.

  • “Let all that you do be done in love.” —1 Corinthians 16:14 
  • “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.” —Psalm 118:24  
  • “For we walk by faith, not by sight.” —2 Corinthians 5:7 
  • “May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy.” —Colossians 1:11

Bible Verses for Exercise Burn Out

A tired women exercising outside listening to Bible verses for walking and runningWhether you are a new runner or a pro, it’s important to give yourself days off so your body can rest. Doing too much, too often, can lead to exercise burnout. Use these verses to keep your spirits high on the days you don’t run. Remember: there is always tomorrow.

  • “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” —Matthew 11:28  
  • “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” —John 16:33 
  • “For nothing will be impossible with God.” —Luke 1:37   
  • “Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” —Philippians 1:6

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Bible Verses for Encouraging Others During Your Workout

Two men exercising together and talking about Bible verses for walking and runningExercising with friends or family can be a great way to hold each other accountable and make working out fun! Even if there are days when we don’t feel like getting up, a word of encouragement from a loved one can go a long way. Let these verses bring you and your workout buddy inspiration.

  • “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.” —1 Thessalonians 5:11 
  • “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” —Isaiah 40:31 
  • “The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” —Deuteronomy 31:8 
  • “I long to see you so that I may impart to you some spiritual gift to make you strong— that is, that you and I may be mutually encouraged by each other’s faith.” —Romans 1:11-12

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Bible Verses for Cooling Down After Running or Walking

A woman drinking water after a workout thinking about Bible verses for walking and runningLike the end of a long day, all walks and runs must come to an end. It doesn’t matter whether you sprint or walk past the finish line, as long as you make it there. It can take time before you start to feel the energizing effects of exercise. Use these uplifting verses to cool down and remind yourself to take it one step at a time.

  • “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.” —Hebrews 11:1 
  • “Splendor and majesty are before him; strength and joy are in his place.” —1 Chronicles 16:27 
  • “For if the willingness is there, the gift is acceptable according to what one has, not according to what one does not have.” —2 Corinthians 8:12 
  • “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” —Joshua 1:9 

What Bible verses do you turn to when you exercise? What Scriptures keep you encouraged as you run or walk?

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15 Old-Fashioned Candies That Remind Us of Childhood

Nothing reminds us of our growing-up days quite like food—specifically, candy. From sweet chewy treats to chocolate-covered favorites, these old-fashioned candies bring a sense of innocence and wonder with them. They’re also unequivocally delicious. We decided to look back on the most popular treats over the decades. Did your favorite classic candy make the cut?

12 Ways to Clear Up a Misunderstanding

Wow, it’s so easy to get our feelings hurt, isn’t it? We overhear something someone said (or what we think they said), or we feel left out, or we aren’t treated as we would like, and it slams us in the heart.

A misunderstanding doesn’t feel good, either on the receiving end or the giving end. I’ve experienced both. But I’ve learned some things about handling misunderstandings:

1. I need to be the grown-up. Wearing my feelings on my sleeves just makes it easy for them to get in the way of real communication.

2. Misunderstandings are usually just that, and when I make the effort to talk with the other person about it, it’s often an easy fix.

3. I need to ask God, “Do I have the right attitude or do I need to change something? Sometimes the problem isn’t the other person…it’s me.

4. I can’t let misunderstandings go unresolved. Otherwise, something that started out the size of a pebble can end up as big as the Grand Canyon.

5. It’s best to go to the person directly. Third party conversations about someone else just muddy the waters and make it harder to clear things up.

6. Pray for wisdom about how to handle the situation in a Christ-like manner.

7. Show love like Jesus does—no matter what.

8. Ask God to help me see others as He does.

9. Forgive…even when forgiveness isn’t requested.

10. I can’t become bitter. That only hurts me.

11. Show grace, no matter who is right or wrong.

12. Turn the other cheek. Go the extra mile. And make restitution when it’s merited … and sometimes even when it isn’t.

I’m a representative of God, and through my actions toward others, I can be His witness. I never want to stand between God and His message. How about you?

12 Things Not to Say to Someone Who Is Grieving

Grief is a deep sadness that can be caused by many things, including the death of a loved one, the loss of a relationship, a job, a pet or even a loss of one’s beloved property. Unfortunately this deep sadness is something that most of us will face at least once in our lifetime.

Sharing the common experience of grief with others allows us to be able to express empathy and lend support for those who are currently suffering. Although there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there are several ways to communicate support to those who are going through this difficult experience.

When offering support, here are 10 things not to say or do when someone is grieving:

1) “Maybe it was for the best.”

It is not helpful for a grieving person to hear that losing a loved one is best for them. Even if you have experienced a loss in the past, you don’t know someone else’s experience. This statement may even complicate their healing process. Instead, try asking, “How can I help?” This communicates that you care, but you are not assuming you know what’s best for their situation.

2) “Just move on.”

This statement creates a falsehood that there is a certain pace for grieving. Everyone grieves in their own time and at their own pace. There are some who feel that grief should only last one year, and this is not true. Reassure your loved one that grief is natural and the time it takes varies from person to person.

3) Posting any commentary on social media without permission.

A person grieving may want to share their loss with the world in their own way and in their own time. Often those who are grieving feel that so much is out of their control. Taking away a grieving person’s control over when and how to share grief on social media only adds to that devastating feeling of loss. Instead of rushing to post or tweet your condolences, try making a phone call or sending a card or private message to express your support.

4) “You are much stronger than I would be.”

Statements like this make you the center of attention, when you should be focused on the person who is grieving. Your feelings or actions in a hypothetical situation are not comforting to someone who is dealing with very real grief. When someone is trying to slowly integrate back into society after a loss, remember that it takes bravery and courage to attempt to move forward. What a person expresses outwardly is no indication of where they are in the grieving process. For example, just because a grieving person isn’t crying doesn’t mean the person has not cried or is not still sad, nor does it communicate that they are no longer grieving. Be sure to empathize with their loss and say: “This must be difficult for you. Let me know how/if I can help.”

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5) “You should get out more.”

Grievers have a tendency to withdraw and isolate, which could cause depression symptoms. Encouraging them to enjoy outside activities is always a healthy idea, but do not put pressure on them. It seems like such a simple answer to grief, to get out and find ways to escape, but a person may not be ready to escape that part of grief just yet. Instead of insisting that a person who is experiencing grief participate in an activity, simply suggest an event or activity that you’re also willing to attend—and even pay for, if possible—with the grieving person.

6) “They are in a much better place”

Even if a person’s loved one was suffering, these words, no matter how benign, may be painful for a grieving person to hear. Never assume to know a person’s beliefs or how statements of faith will impact a grieving person. Instead of placing the focus on God taking a loved one, remind the grieving person that they are not alone and you will help them get through this difficult time.

7) “I know how you feel.”

The truth is you don’t. Even if you have had a similar loss, you cannot possibly know how that particular person feels at that particular moment. The loss can seem similar, but the relationship with a person makes each loss unique and very personal. Instead of claiming to know how they feel, instead say, “I’m here for you,” and offer your ear to listen whenever they feel comfortable to share how they feel.

8) “Stay Positive.”

Again, like many of the previous statements, this often comes from a very compassionate place, but it can be dismissive of the person’s current feelings. Encouraging them to express an emotion that is not a reality for them may delay their grieving process. Instead, reaffirm for them that they are entitled to their feelings, and you are here to listen if they want to share. Remember: listen more and say less.

9) “Your loved one wouldn’t want you to cry.”

This statement can create a huge sense of guilt in a grieving person for sharing their true emotion. Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying does not imply that they are weak or that they are doing something wrong. Instead, ask permission to hug a person who is crying, or get them a tissue or just sit quietly with them while they cry. If you’re on the phone with someone who is crying, say comforting words, like, “It’s okay to cry. I’m here for you.”

10) “It was just his/her time.”

Suggesting that there is a reason or rationale behind a person’s death can be very upsetting to a grieving person, to whom the death may feel senseless and irrational. Depending on the circumstances of the death, statements like this one can suggest that the death is somehow justified, which is not comforting to a grieving person. Instead, say, “I am so sorry for your loss.”

Remember that grieving the loss of a loved one is the worst pain someone can endure. If you want to help, keep these tips in mind. Respect a grieving person’s boundaries. Listen to them quietly. Just be present with them and allow them to grieve in their own way, at their own time. This can help lessen the pain.

Apologize to your loved one if you’ve already said the wrong thing. If you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing, just offer to cook dinner, buy groceries, watch the children for an afternoon, or help around the house. These gestures can mean so much more than words to someone who feels their world has been turned upside down.

**Editors Note** our readers on Facebook shared these “things not to say” to people who are grieving:

Kim says, “After my miscarriage, several said, ‘Cheer up; you can have another baby.’”

Elizabeth says, “One month after my son died, I was told…they were tired of my moody sadness.”

What are some words of comfort you hope people will say in your time of need?

’12 Days of Christmas’ Becomes Real for a Family in Need

In April 2008, Suzanne Lea suffered a devastating loss when her husband Bryan died of a heart attack. Struggling with how to cope with the loss of her life partner and the father of her two young boys, Matthew and James, the holidays that year seemed unbearable. "We didn’t even have a way to hang our Christmas lights without Bryan," she told Yahoo! Parenting.

That December, Lea opened her door one day to a bowl full of pears. An odd anonymous gift to be sure, but one the mom appreciated and believed was from another concerned neighbor, like the casseroles she'd been receiving. The next day, another anonymous gift landed on the family's doorstep, and soon, the 12 Days of Christmas had come to life for Lea and her two boys. Daily gifts poured in, all based on that favorite Christmas tune and all serving to heal the loss of a beloved husband, father and friend. She later discovered the gifts came from members of her church.

"That was huge because when you’re hit with a big tragedy, the darkness is so overwhelming inside of you that it doesn’t let you go,” Lea said. “You just want to know that you’re going to have a full life again. And that’s what happened on that 12th day. It gave us something to believe in.”

But the giving didn't stop there. Inspired by her community's generous act, Lea carried on the tradition herself every Christmas season, giving to those she saw in need. Each year the gifts got bigger and the number of families receiving them grew until, in 2010, Lea decided to start her own charity that she fittingly named In 12 Days. Her organization aims to help people that she sees going through hard times. Lea's group works with religious organizations, local school boards, sponsors and other charities in order to spread the Christmas cheer each year. Helicopter rides and resort stays are just a couple of gifts they've given to others in the past few years, but it's not just lavish presents Lea hopes to share. "We’re pulling a whole community together," she says.

This year, In 12 Days has a huge campaign in the works; thousands of volunteers, airline tickets for families flying home for the holidays and organized benefit rallies for disabled children are planned each day this week leading up to the group's big benefit on Dec. 13 which will feature Cirque du Soleil performers, stars of the Broadway play Jersey Boys, and the Society Pipes and Drum Band. But what Lea is really excited for is the chance to make a difference in the lives of people who really need a Christmas miracle.

“I’m so proud of what we do,” Lea said. “In 12 Days is a celebration of life that gives you strength to move forward on your own, through grief.”

Read more at Yahoo! Parenting.

10 Weight Loss Tips That Work

How did it ever come to this? I wondered aloud. I’m 55 years old and shopping for a scooter to help me get around! I was distraught by how I’d let my joints get so bad, carrying all of this extra weight, but I knew I needed that scooter, so I swallowed my despair and ordered a red one. Might as well have one that matches my nails and purse, I decided.

That’s when my doctor remarked that if I lost some weight I might be able to avoid that scooter. But I needed to lose nearly a hundred pounds. I’d tried every crash diet and none of them seemed to work—not for long, anyway. And I really never lost that much weight on any of them.

I mentioned this to my sister-in-law Ellen and she insisted that if I was really serious about this weight loss thing, she would be my cheerleader. Ellen has incredible energy and passion so, embarrassed as I was, I decided to take her up on it. My progress was slow-I only lost 45 pounds in the first year-but I lost an amazing 94 pounds by the end of the second year. Here are some of Ellen’s favorite tips that helped me keep the weight off for good:

1) When starting out, change only one habit at a time. After reviewing my habits, Ellen remarked that it was when I was eating that was more of a problem than the amount of food I consumed. So the first habit I changed was not eating anything after 6 p.m. Three weeks later, I had lost three whole pounds! I couldn’t believe it.

2) Be patient and appreciate small changes. Starting small was the answer for me. I’ve seen people who go on radical diets and might lose 5 pounds in one week, not three pounds in 3 weeks. Don’t let slow weight loss discourage you. If you want to lose weight and keep it off, changing your habits for the long haul makes a difference. So be patient and stick to your plan. (It’s amazing to contemplate, but eliminating only one can of pop a day can result in a 25 pound weight loss in a year.)

3) When weight loss stops, change another habit. When I hit a standstill, Ellen had me replace my two daily soda pops (260 calories each or 520 calories) with bottles of water and cut down on bread. (I’d eat my evening grilled cheese sandwich with only one slice.) In a week, I’d lost another pound. Then another and another. My blood pressure dropped 20 points and I was down a dress size by the end of a month, my joints weren’t so sore, and I was moving more. This was incredible for me. I followed these habit changes again until I stopped losing. Then I added a new habit change. I didn’t give up on the old change, I just added another one. This time I swapped yogurt for a candy bar until once more I didn’t see the numbers change on the scales. Ellen promised that sooner or later, the weight would come off because I was consuming fewer calories, eating the right things, and walking more. It was simple science.

4) Toss out your fat clothes for good. As I saw those numbers change, I got rid of elastic-waist slacks and too-loose skirts and replaced them with chic clothes from the consignment store in town. As I lost, I kept trading up, or should I say down. I discovered another fabulous life strategy: Shop the bargains at consignment stores to put your wallet on a diet too. Many of their offerings are new or nearly new.

5) Eat what you want–in small amounts. I didn’t deprive myself of anything while on Ellen’s plan. If I was at a birthday party, I allowed myself a few bites of cake. That kept me from feeling different from the people around me, which had plagued me on other crash diet plans.

6) Journal your intake. This made me more accountable and helped me to understand food and drink issues that were interfering with my success at weight loss.

7) Find an exercise you love. I couldn’t exercise in the beginning because of mobility issues, but after I’d lost 20 pounds, I discovered my back pain was less of an issue. So I phased in walking, an activity I enjoy that also sparks my creativity, as a writer.

8) Engage a weight loss buddy. At work, Rita was trying to shed a few pounds too. Whenever I’d hit a plateau, the two of us kept each other encouraged in the heat of the workday. We also shared healthy food choices when eating out.

9) Substitute fruit for fruit juice and stock up on low-calorie favorites Apples and oranges have more fiber than their juice counterparts and increase your feeling of fullness too. If you’ve got low-calorie snacks you like at home, this will keep you from going out to eat for snacks which contained more sugar and fat. By doing this, I also decreased my bread consumption by 75%.

10) Use a smaller plate. I love antique red transferware so I used a red transferware dessert plate for meals instead of a standard plate. I found I ate much less and enjoyed the experience of eating much more.

Eight years later, I’m down more than 90 pounds. And that scooter? Mysteriously, it never arrived. The medical equipment store says my order somehow got canceled. I say God intervened so I would experience Ellen’s painless, life-changing plan.

10 Ways to Develop Patience as a Caregiver

Sugar gets you more in life than vinegar. For caregivers, the expression holds some deep truth. As you care for your older loved one—particularly one who has dementia—a positive tone and outlook on your part can be key to smoothing charged interactions and avoiding behavior you may later regret.

Frustration is a common byproduct of the challenging work of caregiving. The pressures of the role can easily lead to exhaustion and anger, and before you know it, you may find yourself lashing out at this person who means the world to you. While certain things, like your loved one’s condition, may be out of your control, it is within your control to defuse frustration and anger before they get the better of you.

Patience can be cultivated.

The following techniques can help you to control your ire before you react in a less-than-hoped-for way to a trying situation with your loved one:

Notice how you’re feeling. Shortness of breath or faster breathing and heart rate, a knot in the throat or the pit of the stomach, chest pains and rising body temperature are some warning signs of frustration. You might even have a desire to strike out at your loved one in the heat of the moment. These are all indications that it’s time to reel it in. Pay attention to what you’re feeling and make a conscious effort to slow down before going any further.

Breathe. Take three (or more) deep breaths. Fill your entire body cavity down into your gut and up through the lungs and head. Exhale slowly and completely. Then count from one to 10. You can do this sitting, standing or lying down. Basic as it is, this simple approach can work amazingly well to take you out of the situation, settle your nerves and stop you from instantly reacting.

Use your hands. This quick and practical method of defusing anger before it boils over is demonstrated here by Marsha M. Linehan, professor emeritus in the Department of Psychology at the University of Washington’s Behavioral Research and Therapy Clinics. Hold your arms down by your sides, palms open outward, fingers slightly curled. If you are sitting, place your hands on your knees the same way. “I learned this from a course I took in spirituality,” Linehan says in the video, posted on the National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine’s website. “It turns out it’s really a miracle. It’s very difficult to stay angry with willing hands.”

Step away. Take a time-out if you need to—and if it’s feasible. Excuse yourself and stretch your legs in the fresh air. You might try a walking mindfulness exercise as you do so: Walk slowly 10 to 20 feet in one direction and then turn and walk back to where you started. Focus on the sensations of standing upright and moving to maintain your balance. Removing yourself from a frustrating situation can also mean simply going to a quiet room to listen to music, write in a journal, draw, stretch on a mat or read something inspirational or pray. Call a good friend you can open up to. Or close your eyes and visualize the sights, sounds and smells of a place that makes you calm. You might feel like making a cup of tea and eating a handful of nuts or two; whatever evens you out. Low blood sugar can make you jittery and prone to snapping. Visit the Mayo Clinic for more mindfulness exercises.

Gather your thoughts. Once you’ve calmed down, rethink the situation. Come up with ways to resolve the issue and reduce your frustration. Figure out what you’re really mad about. You may realize that you’ve been spinning negative scenarios beyond the situation at hand—believing that bad things always happen. Maybe you’ve been beating yourself up over things you “should” and “should not” have done. Your anger may be masking grief and fear over the changes in your loved one’s condition. Stay in the present and analyze what just happened. It can be good to write down your feelings. As you acknowledge what’s gotten to you, the negative feelings may begin to diminish.

Empathize. “Our soul desires to be understanding, our ego is only concerned with being understood. When you are being understanding you are connected to your soul.” Take these words of spiritual empowerment teacher Michaiel Bovenes to heart. Shift your perspective by looking at the situation through your loved one’s eyes. Empathy can give you patience. Remember ways that he or she has been patient with you. Don’t forget the golden rule.

Communicate directly. Express any frustrations clearly, using “I” rather than “you” language. For example: “I am frustrated by …” rather than “You did …” or “You always do …” Be assertive but not confrontational. Listen and truly hear what your loved one has to say. Think of all the positive things you have loved about this person over the years. Look into his or her eyes and say you’re sorry if you need to. Then forgive yourself.

Let yourself laugh. Find humor to the situation, if you can. The two of you may end up laughing together. It’s a powerful tension reliever. But avoid sarcasm.

Head off future triggers. Think in advance about things that have led you to grow impatient with your loved one. Figure out how to keep these things from happening again. One effective approach is to ask for things from your loved one rather than demand them. Decide to keep your tone positive moving forward. Work to let go of anger. Dwelling on it can engulf you in bitterness.

Accept help. Exhaustion affects mood so it’s important to incorporate routine exercise and relaxation into your life. To do this, you may need a helping hand. Family members or friends might be willing and able to step in so that you can take breaks. An in-home care aide or healthcare professional can also be a sanity savior, if you are able to hire one. These skilled workers can assist you at regular intervals, giving your loved one gentle care while you take a needed breather and refocus.

It’s important to understand that anger is sometimes warranted and can point to areas where change needs to be made. But if you feel you are expressing anger in unhealthy or out-of-control ways, seek professional help or share your feelings with a support group.

10 Tips to Help You Start and Keep a Dream Journal

Did you know that Google, sewing machines, Mary Shelley’s Frankenstein and Paul McCartney’s “Yesterday” all share something in common?  They were all inspired by dreams.  Dreams are mystical and amazing sources of insight and inspiration. Unfortunately, most people recall less than 10% of their dreams. But there is a simple practice to help you remember your dreams—start and keep a dream journal!  It may sound like an impossible feat. How do you write down what you don’t remember?  The key is your intention and your willingness to make dream recall and journaling a daily part of your morning routine. Committing as little as five minutes a day can make a world of difference in remembering and deciphering your dream life.

Here are 10 tips to keeping a dream journal to help you get started. Maybe the next amazing invention or inspiring creative work will find its beginnings in your dream journal.

1. Pick a journal. Inexpensive composition books that cost under a dollar work great. If you want to use something special be sure to choose one that you’ll feel comfortable writing in. Avoid something with gilded edges that might feel too fancy or intimidating to scribble in before you’ve had a cup of coffee.

2. Keep your dream journal by your bed. The very act of having a dream journal on your nightstand is a shout-out to your unconscious that you are serious about wanting to recall your dreams. This bold intention often kick-starts your ability to remember your dreams.

3. Write in your journal when you wake up. Even if your only memory is something as simple as a color – simply write the date and what you remember. It’s fine to write “no luck I can’t remember” –just write something.

4. Don’t be afraid to draw. Some dreams are easier to capture in an image. When you have a strong visual in your mind’s eye, instead of writing a few words—draw a picture. Don’t worry if it’s a stick figure or something that looks like a cave painting–just capture your memory on the page.

5. You don’t need to write in sentences. Jotting down a few keywords is fine if that works best for you. Most important is to track what you remember in a way that you understand when you reread it later—and in a way that’s quick and easy so you’ll keep journaling daily.

6. Feelings are important.  Remember to capture whatever emotions you recall. Were you happy in the dream? Maybe you saw something that doesn’t make sense but you clearly remember being afraid. Write it down.

7. Be as detailed as possible. The more you keep track, the more details you’ll remember and the lengthier your entries will become. You’ll be amazed at your progress in just a few weeks.

8. Write down any parallels with your life. If your dreams have similarities with experiences you are going through, be sure to note it in your dream journal. For example if you have a dream about being worried about a meeting at work, does this coincide with a presentation or some sort of work stress—if so, write it down.

9. Look for patterns in your dream recall.  Do you remember your dreams better on weekdays or weekends? After watching TV or reading? See if you can determine what behaviors are helping or hindering you from remembering your dreams.

10. Trust your intuition rather than books on dream symbols. It’s fine to do a search on the internet and see if the common interpretation makes sense, but recognize that your dreams are personal and what you think it means trumps the dream dictionary. Ask yourself what the dream means to you.

10 Quotes to Live Your Best Life from Norman Vincent Peale

May 31 is the 122nd anniversary of Norman Vincent Peale’s birth. Author, minister, and founder of Guideposts, Dr. Peale, is best known as the father of positive thinking. He continues to uplift new generations with his legacy of inspiration and optimism. The uplifting quotes from Dr. Norman Vincent Peale will inspire you to be your best at any age.