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Giving Thanks for Small Graces

What am I thankful for this Thanksgiving? I am thankful that I do not have a clothes dryer.

If I owned one, surely I’d miss the exhilaration that comes from taking a basketful of clothes into the fresh air and the ritual of the clothesline, where garment by garment, peg by peg, I link my family together, symbolically at least.

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I’d miss the wet flapping sound that sheets in the wind make. I’d miss the feeling of sisterhood I share with all the women of all ages who have worked at homey chores for the people they love.

I am thankful I do not have a microwave oven, for I am accustomed to a slower pace. Besides, I love to peek into my friendly old stove to see the turkey crisping, to watch pale, waddy dough turning into fluffy brown rolls.

I am thankful I do not have air conditioning, for then I likely would not fling open the windows. Closed in, I might not see the little green lizard scampering on the screen.

Over the hum of an air conditioner, I might not hear the chattering of blue jays in the early morning, the gentle rain at night. I might even miss the howling of the wind.

I am thankful I do not have: wall-to-wall carpeting, for I love the glow of polished hardwood; central heat, for watching the dying embers in our fireplace makes me feel at peace; a new sofa, for I like the way the old one embraces me. It would take too long, I fear, for a new one to yield to my measurements.

I am thankful I do not have a gardener, for I would not spend the hours I do in my flower beds. And I would not be on my knees as often, closer to the earth, closer to you, Lord, in prayer, telling you of all the many things for which I am thankful.

 

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Give Unto Others

I “met” Joann Cayce in the pages of a woman’s magazine in the early 1990s. She had just won a national award for her 30 years of volunteer service to those who lived in the impoverished Arkansas delta area, near her home in Thornton. 

She not only distributed food and clothes to the families, I read, but found school supplies, a dentist appointment or a court order when needed.

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I wanted to help, and Joann’s daughter, Joannie, told me that they always needed children’s shoes “so kids can get to school in the cold weather.” 

It was hard for me to believe that some children in our country had no shoes, but that was one of the differences between the city poor and the rural poor, the women explained.

Those who lived in low population areas tended to get lost in the government red tape. What they had, for the most part, was what people like the Cayce family provided.

As years passed, I shopped garage sales, regularly shipping gently used shoes, clothes and toys to Arkansas. On Thanksgiving 2002 the Cayces fed more than a thousand families, but they were exhausted and discouraged by the unending need. Would Christmas come to Thornton this year? How could I help?

I turned to my website subscribers. I write books and post stories about angels, the heavenly kind. But surely people were meant to be earth angels, especially at Christmas. We could send socks, I thought, they were affordable and comforting.

My subscribers responded immediately. As packages from strangers around the world began to arrive, Joann’s enthusiasm returned.

The boxes contained more than socks. People sent sweaters and clothes, encouraging notes and cash for Christmas dinners. There were miracles in those boxes too: 

• On December 23, teenagers from Elk Grove, Illinois, filled a truck with donated toys, and their church leaders drove all night to Arkansas. They pulled into the Cayce driveway the very moment Joannie had given away the last toy.

• A few hours later, local Boy Scouts left a food basket and socks for a destitute family. When the mother saw the pile, she counted out 50 precious cents and walked a mile to a pay phone. “Someone left some socks at our house,” she told Joann. “They can’t be ours—we’ve never had socks.”

“You do now,” Joann assured her. “Someone who cares about you sent them.” The woman wept.

• Joannie put a batch of men’s white tube socks aside. Months later, when she took snacks to the high school football team before the first game, she noticed that none of the players were wearing socks. “The school provides uniforms but not socks,” the coach told Joannie. “The boys can’t afford them, so we often have to forfeit the games because we don’t have complete uniforms.” Joannie knew just where to look.

Before the 2002 holidays had ended, 25,000 pairs of socks had found their way to Thornton.

Today, many people have adopted this little town as their own, and are probably busy right now putting together a box. However small or modest, its helps. After all, isn’t that the work of angels?

The Cayces take anything usable, all year around:

Joann Cayce Charities
403 South Second Street
Thornton, AR 71766

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Give the Gift of Forgiveness This Christmas

“Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?’Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.’” (Matthew 18:21–22)

Christmas is the time of year when we do a lot giving—presents to our friends and family, time to outreach organizations, money to charity.

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While we’re in this giving mode, why not give the gift of forgiveness this Christmas? If you’ve been holding a grudge, this is the perfect time to let it go and forgive once and for all.

Maybe you thought you’d forgiven that family member or that former friend or that cantankerous co-worker, but every time you think of that person, a little tinge of “ickiness” fills your heart. Wouldn’t you love to get rid of those feelings? Wouldn’t you love to live free from that hurt and replace it with God’s joy and peace?

You can if you are willing to offer forgiveness.

You might say, “But that person isn’t even sorry!” That’s okay. That person doesn’t have to be sorry in order for you to forgive. In fact, that person doesn’t even have to be alive for you to offer forgiveness.

If you’re still harboring hurt over harsh words your late mother said to you or you’re still suffering in your soul from abuse you experienced at the hands of a late relative, it’s time to choose forgiveness.

Some grief experts even suggest writing a letter to that person, saying everything you always wanted to say but never had the opportunity to share, reading it out loud, writing “I forgive you” over the top of your letter in bold letters, and then shredding it or burning it. While that might seem pointless to you, it’s not. It’s an act of faith and a step toward the restoration of your heart.

You don’t have to feel it—just forgive by faith. God will help you. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you’re condoning his or her inexcusable behavior; it just means that you’re courageous enough to forgive and move forward.

I know from experience that when you give the gift of forgiveness, you’ll receive gifts, too—freedom, love, joy, peace and more!

I hope you’ll let Jesus fill your heart today so that there is no room for any hurt. And, I hope that you’ll have a very Merry Christmas Season and the Happiest New Year ever!

George Washington’s Inspiring Definition of Friendship

As we celebrate President’s Day and remember our great leaders, I’m thinking about George Washington’s beautiful definition of friendship. He said, “True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity, before it is entitled to the appellation.”

We’re all friends here, so I can confess I had to look up the word “appellation,” which simply means a name. So our first president speaks from across the centuries to say, a real friend is someone who has accompanied you through challenging times and remains steadfast in your life. When you have a relationship with someone like that, you get the pleasure and privilege of calling them “friend.”

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In Washington’s time, adversities could include things like wars, deep political divisions and diseases. The “shocks of adversity” of our time might not be so different, and also might include job loss, marriage struggles or the stress of caregiving. 

Friendships themselves also face challenges, from misunderstandings over the intended tone of a text message, to disappointment in the way a friend responds to something you’re going through. Sometimes, a friendship is tested by something as simple as distance or the difficulty of getting in the same room at the same time.

Which is why Washington’s image of “a plant of slow growth” is so inspiring. Anyone who tends plants knows that sometimes a leaf or branch withers, gets bruised or dies. To grow and thrive, plants need to be fed but also pruned. Sometimes they need to be relocated so they get more light—or a break from the strong sunshine. 

True friendship is no different. A lasting friendship empowers us to return to each other after a dormant season, be patient with the aspects of life that are beyond anyone’s control and have confidence in the face of stormy weather, knowing that the roots that ground us in each other’s lives are strong, deep and alive. 

How do you define true friendship?

Your Yard…A Wildlife Refuge

Want a bird-friendly yard so you can attract an exciting variety of feathered friends? Maybe you’re thinking you can’t, because your space is small. Maybe you’re thinking you need acres of land, fields of grass, and towering trees. If so, think again.  

My nephew, Luke Springer and I visited Judy Switzer of Middletown, Pennsylvania whose backyard is small…very small. Yet, it’s been declared a wildlife refuge! 

How could that be? First thing you notice about Judy’s backyard is that on her fence is an impressive sign from the National Wildlife Federation stating that you are entering a wildlife refuge. The second thing is how small her yard is, at most 50 square feet.

Initially, you ask yourself…this is a wildlife refuge? But then you begin to notice all the specific details…the very deliberate and loving way Judy has planned it all.  

Hanging from the trees, there are many feeders for the birds Judy loves to attract. Under other trees are birdbaths where they can come to bath and drink. “The birds give such pleasure…they’re like friends,” she says smiling.

That’s not all. Judy is helping the return of native plants of hundreds of years ago. She has replaced exotic plants with species that grow naturally in her locale. Her flower garden shows a variety of beautiful colors…pink and blue hydrangeas, yellow goldstorms, auburn coral bells, and echinacea. Judy is lucky to have a sister, Carol Schroding who owns a store in Quakertown, called Northeast Natives and Perennials, specializing in native species who I’ve asked to add info on native species to this blog.
 
Judy is passionate about not adding any poisons to the planet, so she uses no pesticides or herbicides. Her clothesline shows she saves electricity by hanging out her laundry.

She’s also passionate about people having a right to breathe clean air. To help make this happen, she has drastically cut back grass, as mowers are much more wasteful than cars in the fuel they burn and much dirtier in the toxins they add to the air. She has replaced most of her grass with a variety of cool, green ground covers, attractive river gravel, and a large, woodsy deck that made me want to sit right down to listen to the birds calling.

“My yard may be small, but it’s a healthy place…not only for the birds, but for me, too!”

More than 125,000 backyards and public areas have already been certified, and the National Wildlife Federation is aiming for 25,000 more. Learn how you can participate by checking out their website. I’ve checked it out, and am hoping my backyard will qualify!

Enjoy your backyard birds and bunnies this summer!     

Carol             

Your Teen Doesn’t Believe? Don’t Panic…

What happened? You took your little girl to Sunday school. You read her Bible stories. You showed her how to pray. You dedicated her life to the Lord as a young child. You watched her grow in faith, but then, something changed. 

She hit the teenage years, and now she doesn’t believe in God anymore. 

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Has your teen lost her faith? Photo from 123RF(r)I’ve had many conversations over the years with parents who have struggled with watching their teens walk away from Christianity and watching them walk toward an impartial view on faith, faith that believes that we all have the same God.

We just worship him differently. Or maybe she doesn’t believe in God at all. What do you do?

1.  Remember that God has not forgotten His promises to you or your teen daughter. She is His child and He will lead her back to Him. It may not be in the time frame you want, but it will happen in God’s timing.

2.  Stay calm and nonjudgmental. In the Bible, Jesus tells us the parable about the prodigal son for a reason. It’s not uncommon for us to stray or question our faith.

Many do, especially when we are living a life that isn’t God’s best for us, but we always find our way back home to those who love us most. God loves your daughter most.

3.  Try not to preach to your teen. Many teens feel that Christians live a hypocritical life when we say one thing and do the opposite. Let her know that we all make mistakes and we need forgiveness.

Live what you believe. Show her the Lord’s love, grace and forgiveness by your actions.

4.  Continue to pray for God’s guidance and protection for your teen daughter or granddaughter. She will face many temptations as she ventures out into the world.

Stay encouraged and know that God is working in her life. He is in control.

Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. (Hebrews 11:1, NIV)

Your Heavenly Father–The Perfect Dad

Today’s guest blogger is Wendy Lanier.

The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him. (Psalm 28:7)

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Daddies are protective. Well—real daddies are. Baby daddies don’t count, because anybody can make a baby. It takes a real man to be a father.

Real fathers guard their children and serve as their protectors as long as they have breath. No matter how old I get (already past the half-century mark), and no matter how old he gets, my dad will always look out for me.

He’ll fuss over whether there is washer fluid in my car, whether my tires are properly inflated, and if my favorite ice cream is in the house when I come to visit. He’ll shoot snakes for me and babysit my dog if I ask him. He’d defend me from a grizzly bear if the need arose. I have never doubted his love for me.

My husband takes the same attitude toward our own daughters. And that’s as it should be. Because that’s what dads do.

But even if your earthly father falls short of that mark, you can be sure your Heavenly Father never will. He guards you (Psalm 97:10) and helps you (Psalm 28:7). He is your protector (2 Thessalonians 3:3), and a mighty warrior who loves you, delights in you, and rejoices over you with singing (Zephaniah 3:17).

Good or bad, earthly dads are subject to faults. Not one of them is perfect. And, unfortunately, lots of people have earthly fathers that are just outright horrible. But no matter who you are or where you live or what your station in life—the Heavenly Father will always be the perfect dad to you if you’ll let Him.

Like the gentleman He is, He will never force you to spend time with Him or demand your attention. He will simply be there. And when you make the effort to know Him, when you seek Him, you’ll find that He is the answer to every need you have.

As great as my dad is, he can’t do that for me. As much as he may want to, my dad can’t heal me or bind up my broken heart or give me eternal life. That’s something only my Heavenly Father can do. And He can do that for you, too.

 

Wendy Hinote Lanier is a former elementary teacher who writes and speaks for children and adults on a variety of topics. She holds a B.S. and M.S. in Speech Language Pathology and an M. Ed. in Elementary Education. She is the author of more than a dozen books for children and young people as well as articles and devotions for children and adults in various publications.

World’s Oldest Couple Celebrates 80 Years of Marriage

Their combined ages of 211—with 80 years of marriage—makes them the oldest living couple on Earth, according to the Guinness World Records, but for John Henderson, 106, and his wife Charlotte, 105, of Austin, Texas, it’s as if time never mattered.

The couple, who met in 1934 while attending the University of Texas where Charlotte was studying to become a teacher and John played for the university’s football team, married in 1939 during the Great Depression.

When asked about their years together, Charlotte reflected on how “one year just went into the next year,” according to USA Today.

“We’ve always loved each other, cared for each other,” Charlotte said. “It’s just one of those things that comes naturally to us.”

Longhorn Village, the senior living community where the Hendersons live, helped the couple celebrate their anniversary on December 22 by throwing a huge party with friends and family. The two lovebirds were also surprised with a 1920s roadster for the day, similar to the one John used to drive to impress Charlotte when they first met.

The couple’s great-nephew, Jason Free, who nominated them for the world record, spoke to an NBC affiliate in Austin, Texas about his great-uncle and aunt’s special relationship.

“They are a wonderful couple, and an example of a very happy couple…glad to be around each other, travel together, and live life,” Jason said. “They’ll tell you the stories of the past, but they don’t dwell on the past—they remember it, but they look forward to the future, and they’ve always been that way.”

The coupled settled in to Longhorn Village, a retirement community for University of Texas alumni and staff, after returning 10 years ago. Although they never had kids, the two were always surrounded by children, Charlotte while teaching and John while coaching junior high football. John is currently the oldest living football player for the University of Texas and according to PEOPLE, the two have attended at least one game every year for the last 84 years.

The Hendersons remain grateful for not only each of their long lives, but for their long-lasting relationship.

“I’m thankful for life itself and being able to live a full life and really a healthy life,” said John. “I’m thankful for every day that rolls around,” Charlotte added. “I’m just thankful for everything.”

Words for the Wise

“More books?” the salesclerk asked my husband, Richie, and me as we browsed the science section.

“We can’t get enough,” I said.

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Reading books about mysterious topics and trying to understand them was one of the most intimate parts of our marriage. We called it our intellectual romance. We’d vowed to grow old and interesting together, and books were our means of doing so.

Each year, from November to March, we exchanged the winter months on our Connecticut farm for months of sunshine, books and long talks in Florida. Every year we picked a new topic to explore together.

“I told my girlfriend about you two and all your book adventures,” the salesclerk said. “She wants us to start reading books together too.”

“Do it,” I said. “Magnets, the 1920s, tornadoes, crop circles. Just choose something that interests you, and cover it from top to bottom.”

“Don’t choose herbs,” Richie advised. “It is dreadfully boring to talk for days about dill and coriander. We’re much happier with the subject we’re studying now. Maybe you and your girlfriend should start with that.”

“What?” the salesclerk said.

I held up the book we’d just bought. “Angels.”

 

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Winning the War of Worry

Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. (Matthew 6:34)

The boys are in our backyard pool with a few of their friends. There is laughter. Joy. The rowdy sort of glee that comes with having a good deal of boyness in a somewhat small space.

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They swim and splash and make the water nearly slosh over the pool walls.

I’m on the swing that my husband Lonny built. It’s my perch. My watching spot. But today, as I sit in the sun, my thoughts wander. And soon I find myself in a worrisome place.

Summer days are numbered.

Change is near.

I never deal with change well. It may be my strongest spiritual struggle. Change brings uncertainty, and that translates to fear. Close-at-hand autumn will move us, as a family, into new territory.

Our oldest son Logan will return to Wheaton to finish his Bible degree. What will come next? Grant will begin his senior year in high school. What will the future bring? The three youngest boys and I will begin our homeschool year. Will what I teach them be enough?

Sometimes I draw worry into my emotional heart as naturally as my physical lungs draw air.

Yet, I know, as I contemplate, with still-summer sounds wrapping around me, that Jesus tells us not to worry. In fact, in His grace, he encourages us to live just one day at a time. Each day will bring what He’s prepared me for. Each day will bring what, in His strength, I can handle. The rest is a burden I place upon myself.

A self-willed yoke.

A weight He’s told me not to bear.

I’m still thinking about this when I’m hit with a cold water spray. Droplets fall like cool spring rain.

“Sorry, Mom,” a son calls. His water gun is pointed high, and he’s wearing a grin. Several boys poke their heads up from the water, hair slicked back smooth as seals.

I decide that I want to live today.

I think of the water gun in the shed behind me. I’m going to join the boys in their fun. A sneak attack will be just the thing.

This war with worry? I’m going to win it one day at a time.

It’s what the Lord commanded.

And peace floods my soul as I obey.

Teach me to live one day at a time, Lord. To appreciate and work within the here and now. Help me to trust and to leave the details of my tomorrows to you.

Will We Meet Our Pets in Heaven?

This week Gracie finally got to go to her favorite place (no, not the puppy store, though she got to go there too and scored a new toy on which she promptly performed a squeakerectomy. Does your dog do this?). No, I’m referring to Monument Mountain near Great Barrington, Massachusetts, considered sacred by the indigenous Mohicans who once lived here and also of personal spiritual significance to me. 

Always by My Side by Edward GrinnanI wrote about Monument Mountain in my book, Always By My Side: Life Lessons from Millie and All the Dogs I’ve Loved. It was Gracie’s predecessor Millie’s favorite place in the world and has become Gracie’s. There is something magical about this shoulder of rock and pines that rises 1700 feet above Route 7 with its several winding trails to the summit. Odes have been written to it.

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In 1850 Nathaniel Hawthorne and Herman Melville arranged their first meeting at the summit (where the young Melville announced he was contemplating writing a novel whose protagonist was a whale. No record of what the famously aloof Hawthorne thought of this, though Melville subsequently dedicated the book to him). Several years ago a good friend’s dog plunged over the summit cliff and miraculously survived with minor injuries after being rescued by first responders who rappelled down to her. It made the papers.

So why finally? Since the emergence of COVID-19 last March, Monument Mountain has been mobbed. With gyms and rec centers closed, folks flocked there for fresh air and exercise, jamming the parking areas and trails, forcing Gracie and me to more remote wanders. Which we happily did, but the other day was blustery and overcast and the crowds at Monument had finally thinned in the colder weather.

Halfway up the Hickey Trail we detoured to a waterfall and sat by the pool at its base. “Here is where I scattered your Aunt Millie’s ashes,” I told Gracie. No telling if she comprehended this. She did some perfunctory sniffing then settled by my side. It felt good to finally return to this spot.

I’ve wondered if our beloved animals will meet us in heaven and have concluded they will. What sort of cruel heaven would that be without them? I’ve been pleased by the number of people who agree with this belief, as if God would ever deny us the eternal pleasure of our pets. The problem of loving pets is you outlive all but the last one. I miss all my dogs and pray that I will be reunited with them some day. How many of you feel the same way?

While Gracie found a stick to gnaw, I said a little prayer that God would indeed admit our furry friends into paradise. Then we headed to the top, a little closer to heaven.

Willow the Heaven-Sent Comfort Cat

Beth, our dietary manager, peeked in my office door. “I want you to meet our newest resident,” she said. I smiled and turned in my chair.

Welcoming people and helping them adjust to their new surroundings is one of my responsibilities as chaplain at Madrid Home Communities, a nursing home with 110 residents in central Iowa. I was always happy to greet a new resident. But Beth was holding a tiny calico kitten.

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“One of the nurses found her at the front door,” she said. “She had her paws against the glass like she wanted to come in. We’re going to call her Willow.”

“We’re not really keeping her, are we?” I protested.

“It’s so cold outside and there’s no sign of her mother,” she said, stroking the kitten’s head. “The director of nursing said she could stay, for a while. She said a cat might even be good for the residents.”

“Really?” I threw up my hands in mock surrender. No way is this going to work, I thought when Beth left. This is farm country. People don’t keep cats indoors. What about allergies? Germs?

I love my work, but it’s challenging. Moving to a nursing home is a major life change. There’s the loss of independence. Sometimes it’s not the person’s choice to move here. There’s anger to work through. And grief.

It takes time for people to open up and feel they can trust me. I have to work at it. It’s more than just being warm and fuzzy.

Sadly, the residents’ time with us can be all too short. I sit with the family as the end draws near and often hold memorial services at the nursing home. Definitely no place for a cat.

Yet no one seemed to have told Willow. She settled in right away, roaming the halls as though she belonged here. Afternoons, I’d find her sprawled across a sofa, snoozing away.

One day I spied her sitting on the lap of a man who had recently lost his wife. He wouldn’t talk to me about it. I watched as Willow stood on her hind legs, her front paws on the grieving man’s shoulders. She nuzzled his cheek, her purr so loud I could hear it across the room.

“It’s almost like she was hugging him,” I told Beth later. “Like she knew he was hurting.”

“Maybe she did,” she said.

Willow took to visiting residents’ rooms. She had a kind of route she followed, like a doctor making rounds. I’d overhear people talking to her, or reading to her. One afternoon I sat down with a woman who had recently received some bad news from her doctor. Her face and shoulders sagged with worry.

I heard a rustling and turned to see Willow padding into the room. A smile crossed the woman’s face and her shoulders lifted, as though a weight had been taken from her. I knew the comfort hadn’t come from me.

Even the chapel wasn’t off-limits. I hold worship services twice a week and was speaking from the pulpit one day. In came Willow. She sat in front, gazed up at me, yawned, scratched herself. Then, when I went on too long—too long for her—she turned and sauntered out.

Everybody’s a critic, I thought. The next time I saw her in the chapel she was sitting at the altar, paws folded in front of her as if in prayer. I know, cats can’t pray. But it was quite a sight.

Late one evening I sat with two sisters keeping a vigil over their dying mother. The room grew stuffy and one of the women opened the door. There was Willow. She walked in and jumped into the lap of the sister who was still sitting.

The woman absently began to stroke Willow, while holding her mother’s hand. Willow didn’t make a sound. After a while she hopped down and climbed into the lap of the other sister. For hours she went from one to the other, never intruding, just being present, a gentle, healing touch.

Early the next morning the mother breathed her last. Willow padded over to a hide-a-bed in the corner, curled up and went to sleep, her job done.

“God be with us,” I prayed with the sisters. “Help us to feel your love and the power of your spirit even now in our time of sorrow.” I opened my eyes and looked over at Willow, knowing my prayer had already been answered. I wasn’t the only one ministering to the residents.

I told Beth the next day what had happened. “Aren’t you glad we let her stay?” she said.

“Yes,” I said. “Call me a convert, but I think Willow’s going to work out fine.”

Today Willow is one of six comfort cats at the nursing home. I can’t imagine doing my job without them. Willow sits in the chair next to my desk every morning and I talk to her about the day ahead. She’s a great listener, a colleague I believe was heaven-sent.

 

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